Let’s discuss these in order. Later on, we’ll talk about some of these exceptions in more detail, but for now we want you to know exactly what type of contact (if any) would be advisable for your situation. Exception 1: You Live Together Of the situations described above, living together makes things the most difficult. Perhaps you were previously roommates…
Read More »Tales From the Front Lines: The Cuddle Buddy One of the most cringe-inducing stories I’ve ever heard was about a friend-of-a-friend, who we’ll call James. James was completely devastated due to a recent breakup with his girlfriend, Amy. James was convinced that Amy was his only shot at real love, and that he had to get her back at all…
Read More »Exception 5: The Short-Term Relationship This is the most important of the exceptions, because in this situation, having an extended No Contact period with her can kill your chances of getting her back. This is because you have not spent the time together that is really required for her to depend on your affection, attention, and presence in her life….
Read More »The Post-Relationship Post-Mortem Now let’s dig deeper and think about some of the other reasons why things went wrong with your ex. At first glance, this may seem pretty simple, especially if you were given explicit reasons as to why your girlfriend didn’t want to continue the relationship. However, there is almost always more to it than meets the eye….
Read More »Tales From the Front Lines: The Clone A high school friend of mine, who we’ll call Jeff, dated Samantha through two years of high school and the first two years of college. However, as she got closer to the end of her college career and started thinking about her future, she decided that she wanted more than what Jeff was…
Read More »Possible Exception 1- The Long Distance Relationship If the two of you were in a long distance relationship, the No Contact rule is slightly different because she isn’t going to see you around. She won’t run into you and see how well (or badly) you are doing. Furthermore, when the No Contact period is over, you will not be able…
Read More »Becoming “The New You,” Version 2.0 In the software world, when a program is improved in some way, it becomes a different version. The original version is version 1.0. Changes and improvements result in version 1.1, 1.2, and so forth. A radically different, much-improved version results in a whole new number, such as version 2.0, 3.0, and so on. You…
Read More »How To Contact Her I recommend two methods of resuming contact with her: through Facebook, or texting her on your phone. (I realize there are other “social” sites besides Facebook, but let’s face it, Facebook is the site everyone uses these days.) These two methods allow you to “gauge the temperature” and feel her out. You can contact her in…
Read More »Exception 2: You Work or Go to School Together In these situations, your amount of contact could vary wildly, based upon the circumstances. If you work or go to school together, but only see each other in passing, then it’s not a big deal. You can say “hi” if you walk by her, but otherwise you need to refrain from…
Read More »Is She Doesn’t Reply… If your initial text or email doesn’t get a reply from her, don’t panic. Keep in mind, she could be busy with a million different things. You just don’t know. Maybe she didn’t get right back to you right away because… • She’s having a stressful day • She’s traveling somewhere • She has no phone…
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