Contain Your Emotions Though emotions like anger and sadness are very different, and have very different effects, they all have one important thing in common: they make you do stupid things. If you give in to your anger, you will do something dumb. If you give in to your sadness, you will do something dumb. It’s just a fact of…
Read More »Possible Exception 1- The Long Distance Relationship If the two of you were in a long distance relationship, the No Contact rule is slightly different because she isn’t going to see you around. She won’t run into you and see how well (or badly) you are doing. Furthermore, when the No Contact period is over, you will not be able…
Read More »Meeting Up OK, so assuming you’re not in a long-distance relationship, arranging this “casual meetup” shouldn’t be too hard at this point. You can meet at a coffee shop, have a light dinner, or anything else that you’ll both feel comfortable with. Just remember: you pick the place and time. Why is this important? Because this is how you’re going…
Read More »An Excerpt from “The Alpha Rules” by Dean Cortez & Carlos Xuma “Be the island, not the waves. The Alpha Man provides a safe haven for the women in his life. Be a protector: demonstrate the ability to be a source of physical and emotional security. Women are attracted to stable, secure men and are repelled by neediness and insecurity….
Read More »A Little Help From Your Friends You may have heard from others that it’s best to work through the pain of a breakup alone. In reality, that is very far from the truth. While you obviously do not want to rely on your ex to help you get through the breakup, you will definitely benefit from some sort of support…
Read More »What You Absolutely Must NOT Do… While this has already been mentioned, it’s so important—and such a common pitfall—that it deserves its own section: If you want to win your ex back, you must not “be friends” with her. Just because the No Contact phase has ended, and she has decided to meet with you, it doesn’t mean that you…
Read More »The “No Contact” Period Hopefully I’ve sufficiently convinced you that even though it isn’t easy, you must maintain a distance from your ex-girlfriend for the time being. Remember, even though your girlfriend broke up with you, she is used to getting your attention. She craves it, even. You may be saying to yourself, “If she craves my attention, why did…
Read More »Consider the following conversation: LISA: “I just heard my uncle is in the hospital. It sounds like he’s really sick.” JOHN: “I’m sorry to hear about that, honey. How’s your aunt handling it? You should call her.” LISA: “Didn’t you hear me? I just said he was sick. It’s got nothing to do with her. My God, he could die…
Read More »Let’s discuss these in order. Later on, we’ll talk about some of these exceptions in more detail, but for now we want you to know exactly what type of contact (if any) would be advisable for your situation. Exception 1: You Live Together Of the situations described above, living together makes things the most difficult. Perhaps you were previously roommates…
Read More »If your girlfriend recently broke up with you, you’re probably feeling blindsided right now. This is probably the most common response when someone is on the receiving end of a breakup. When you’re completely surprised by something, there is shock and disbelief to deal with. But we’ll assume that since you’re reading this book, you’ve managed to recognize that the…
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