In the same way, hoping to make your emotions just “go away” is unrealistic. Lots of people try to do that, but it can literally make them go insane. That’s right; repressing your feelings for a long time makes you crazy. And craziness is hardly a quality that will cause your ex to come running back into your arms. I’m…
Read More »What You Absolutely Must NOT Do… While this has already been mentioned, it’s so important—and such a common pitfall—that it deserves its own section: If you want to win your ex back, you must not “be friends” with her. Just because the No Contact phase has ended, and she has decided to meet with you, it doesn’t mean that you…
Read More »If your girlfriend recently broke up with you, you’re probably feeling blindsided right now. This is probably the most common response when someone is on the receiving end of a breakup. When you’re completely surprised by something, there is shock and disbelief to deal with. But we’ll assume that since you’re reading this book, you’ve managed to recognize that the…
Read More »An Excerpt from “The Alpha Rules” by Dean Cortez & Carlos Xuma “Be the island, not the waves. The Alpha Man provides a safe haven for the women in his life. Be a protector: demonstrate the ability to be a source of physical and emotional security. Women are attracted to stable, secure men and are repelled by neediness and insecurity….
Read More »The “No Contact” Period Hopefully I’ve sufficiently convinced you that even though it isn’t easy, you must maintain a distance from your ex-girlfriend for the time being. Remember, even though your girlfriend broke up with you, she is used to getting your attention. She craves it, even. You may be saying to yourself, “If she craves my attention, why did…
Read More »A Little Help From Your Friends You may have heard from others that it’s best to work through the pain of a breakup alone. In reality, that is very far from the truth. While you obviously do not want to rely on your ex to help you get through the breakup, you will definitely benefit from some sort of support…
Read More »Let’s discuss these in order. Later on, we’ll talk about some of these exceptions in more detail, but for now we want you to know exactly what type of contact (if any) would be advisable for your situation. Exception 1: You Live Together Of the situations described above, living together makes things the most difficult. Perhaps you were previously roommates…
Read More »If She Tries To Reach Out To You… If your ex reaches out to you during this No Contact period—whether it’s with a text message, a call, or a message on Facebook—you may respond. You don’t want to be rude. The key is to keep your response upbeat, positive and brief. (“I’m doing really great, going skiing this weekend with…
Read More »Tales From the Front Lines: The Cuddle Buddy One of the most cringe-inducing stories I’ve ever heard was about a friend-of-a-friend, who we’ll call James. James was completely devastated due to a recent breakup with his girlfriend, Amy. James was convinced that Amy was his only shot at real love, and that he had to get her back at all…
Read More »Women are powerfully attracted to the following qualities: Self-confidence Women want a man who is a man. It does not mean you have to be a Neanderthal or a chauvinist pig (sure, there are surely women who are into that, but these women have serious issues and are usually a lot of trouble). What it means is that if you…
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