She Wants an Upgrade Throughout all of this, it’s important to remember that she doesn’t want the “old” you back. After all, she broke up with the old you, right? Clearly, something about the old you was not doing it for her anymore, whether it was because you were butting heads and arguing too much, or she grew to hate…
Read More »What You Absolutely Must NOT Do… While this has already been mentioned, it’s so important—and such a common pitfall—that it deserves its own section: If you want to win your ex back, you must not “be friends” with her. Just because the No Contact phase has ended, and she has decided to meet with you, it doesn’t mean that you…
Read More »Contain Your Emotions How do you “empty your anger?” Well, there are plenty of ways, and they’re good strategies to use even when you aren’t dealing with a recent breakup. In fact, one of the best ways to release anger is through sports or vigorous exercise. You can swing, hit, throw, or even punch the aggression out of your body….
Read More »What Women Want Earlier, we talked at length about the qualities that women are wired to look for in a man. Now we’ll look at those qualities in terms of how you can incorporate them into your strategy to win back your ex. Specifically, let’s see what you can be doing during your no-contact period to project the qualities that…
Read More »If She Tries To Reach Out To You… If your ex reaches out to you during this No Contact period—whether it’s with a text message, a call, or a message on Facebook—you may respond. You don’t want to be rude. The key is to keep your response upbeat, positive and brief. (“I’m doing really great, going skiing this weekend with…
Read More »In college, we had large, extended groups of friends we knew through sports and other activities. Some of these friends actually helped us learn a lot about relationships, mostly because we were able to observe their blunders and mishaps firsthand. One such person was a guy we’ll call Adam (for future reference, all names will be changed in the stories…
Read More »An Excerpt from “The Alpha Rules” by Dean Cortez & Carlos Xuma “Be the island, not the waves. The Alpha Man provides a safe haven for the women in his life. Be a protector: demonstrate the ability to be a source of physical and emotional security. Women are attracted to stable, secure men and are repelled by neediness and insecurity….
Read More »Women are NOT attracted to the following qualities: Neediness Nothing is less attractive to a girl (or a guy, if think about it) than someone who is constantly wanting to be at your side, not winning your respect but instead your pity because they seemingly have nothing else to do but hang on you. Think in terms of supply and…
Read More »If your girlfriend recently broke up with you, you’re probably feeling blindsided right now. This is probably the most common response when someone is on the receiving end of a breakup. When you’re completely surprised by something, there is shock and disbelief to deal with. But we’ll assume that since you’re reading this book, you’ve managed to recognize that the…
Read More »Step 1: Identify The Core Reasons There are two questions you need to answer (be brutally honest with yourself): what was the key reason why she broke up with you, and what was the key reason why she fell in love with you in the first place? Understanding the answers to these questions will help you to implement the Negative…
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