The Post-Relationship Post-Mortem Now let’s dig deeper and think about some of the other reasons why things went wrong with your ex. At first glance, this may seem pretty simple, especially if you were given explicit reasons as to why your girlfriend didn’t want to continue the relationship. However, there is almost always more to it than meets the eye….
Read More »Patching the Leaks I find that analogies are often the best way to help guys (including myself) understand how to work on relationships. Here’s a good one for understanding how we can really fix what went wrong, or at least ensure that it doesn’t go wrong again. Let’s say you’re on an island with your girlfriend. The island is your…
Read More »Let’s discuss these in order. Later on, we’ll talk about some of these exceptions in more detail, but for now we want you to know exactly what type of contact (if any) would be advisable for your situation. Exception 1: You Live Together Of the situations described above, living together makes things the most difficult. Perhaps you were previously roommates…
Read More »An Excerpt from “The Alpha Rules” by Dean Cortez & Carlos Xuma “Be the island, not the waves. The Alpha Man provides a safe haven for the women in his life. Be a protector: demonstrate the ability to be a source of physical and emotional security. Women are attracted to stable, secure men and are repelled by neediness and insecurity….
Read More »She Wants an Upgrade Throughout all of this, it’s important to remember that she doesn’t want the “old” you back. After all, she broke up with the old you, right? Clearly, something about the old you was not doing it for her anymore, whether it was because you were butting heads and arguing too much, or she grew to hate…
Read More »What Women Want Earlier, we talked at length about the qualities that women are wired to look for in a man. Now we’ll look at those qualities in terms of how you can incorporate them into your strategy to win back your ex. Specifically, let’s see what you can be doing during your no-contact period to project the qualities that…
Read More »Meeting Up OK, so assuming you’re not in a long-distance relationship, arranging this “casual meetup” shouldn’t be too hard at this point. You can meet at a coffee shop, have a light dinner, or anything else that you’ll both feel comfortable with. Just remember: you pick the place and time. Why is this important? Because this is how you’re going…
Read More »Exceptions To The No Contact Rule It’s been said that there are exceptions to every rule, and there are even exceptions to this one. Yes, you heard me right—there are times when it is okay, and even recommended, that you contact your ex-girlfriend shortly after the breakup occurs. Don’t get too excited, though. There are very few cases in which…
Read More »Contain Your Emotions How do you “empty your anger?” Well, there are plenty of ways, and they’re good strategies to use even when you aren’t dealing with a recent breakup. In fact, one of the best ways to release anger is through sports or vigorous exercise. You can swing, hit, throw, or even punch the aggression out of your body….
Read More »Becoming “The New You,” Version 2.0 In the software world, when a program is improved in some way, it becomes a different version. The original version is version 1.0. Changes and improvements result in version 1.1, 1.2, and so forth. A radically different, much-improved version results in a whole new number, such as version 2.0, 3.0, and so on. You…
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