Hey Dean, I feel like I should know this already, but how do I know for sure if I’m really in the “friend zone”?
I’ve been talking to this girl for awhile now and while we flirt and what not, and she hasn’t started dating anyone else, I’m stuck at the moment. Things haven’t progressed.
Am I in the “friend zone,” or does she just like to move slowly?
Dean Cortez’s Answer
Derek, you are not only in the friend zone, but you are in friend zone denial, too.
Hey, I don’t want to be the bearer of bad news. However, if I’m really going to HELP you, I have to be honest with you. And you have to be honest with yourself, too. Look
at what you wrote, Derek.
“Talking to this girl for awhile now…”
“Things haven’t progressed…”
That’s the friend zone. I think you know deep down that it’s the case, but maybe you don’t want to admit it to yourself. That’s alright, that’s what I’m here for! Here’s what you do. You need to start closing. Immediately. Like with Alan from the last question, brush up on the Closing aspects of M.A.C.K. Tactics and put them to use. You need to get her to look at you in a different way, and fast.
If it doesn’t work, and it might not based upon the amount of time you’ve known each other, you may have to go to a no-contact period for awhile. Get her to miss you.
Get her to involve herself in your life on YOUR terms. And ALWAYS project the sense that you’re a guy who leads a fun, interesting lifestyle…and has other female options.