Question and Answer #3

I love M.A.C.K. Tactics, and it has changed my life. I have a question, though. I had an online dating account from back before I started your system, and I left it active because I figured hey, why not meet as many women as possible?

I’ve dated a lot of women lately, but I really am interested in this one I met online. I just don’t know how to take the relationship from online to real life,  though. She just seems content to talk and flirt online through instant messaging. What do you think?


Dean Cortez’s Answer


First of all, I know that it seems natural to go to instant messaging when you meet someone online, but you need to really cut that whole thing out. Instant messaging says a lot of things that you don’t really want to say to a woman: that you’re available whenever she wants, and for however long she wants. Also, when you chat online, she can stop to go do whatever else she has to do, cruise the internet, check her Facebook or whatever, all while still “talking” to you. You don’t want that.

You need to be direct with her and get her phone number. That puts you into your comfort zone since now you’re used to talking to women in the real world. It also gets her away from the dating site, where she is definitely still getting approached on a regular basis.

Now, you may notice that she’s more comfortable with meeting than giving you her number right off the bat. It seems backwards, but go with it. Use what you’ve learned on the first date, and then you’ll have her number and be ready to go from there. You definitely have to be proactive and direct in setting something up and getting offline with this online relationship.

Since you’re read M.A.C.K. Tactics, you already know that your body language and tone of voice are just as important and powerful as the words you say (or type). And you can’t communicate this stuff during an internet chat session.