Question and Answer #23

“Dean, I don’t want this to sound the wrong way, but sometimes I struggle with keeping my motivation up. Don’t get me wrong here, I love women. LOVE THEM. The thing is that when I’m really trying to meet so many it makes it hard sometimes to stay fired up about it. Sometimes I just feel, for lack of a better term, lazy.

But I know I do better with the ladies when I feel completely motivated and when I’m fired up to talk to some hammers. What should I do to keep that feeling going?


Dean Cortez’s Answer


I get where you’re coming from. Anything can become a bit routine when you do it all the time, after all.

What you need to think about first of all is what you are after. Are you looking for a relationship? Just looking for some conversation? Looking for casual sex? Looking to meet the hottest women you can?

Then think about what you’ve been doing. If you are looking for a relationship but you’ve been just taking women home from the bar that aren’t really your type when it comes to dating, that’s why your motivation is lacking. Similarly, if you’ve been getting yourself stuck in these relationships when you really just want to keep it casual and have sex with a lot of women, that’s your problem.

When you approach a woman, you need to have motivation. That means you have to have some kind of goal that she can help you reach, whether it is the goal of having a girlfriend or the goal of having sex with a beautiful woman, or even the goal of having a hammer to take with you to the company picnic the next weekend.

If you focus your efforts in that way, your motivation will always be there. Hope that helps.