Question and Answer #19

“Hi Dean,

I feel like my overall game is pretty good and I have M.A.C.K. Tactics to credit for a lot of that. (OK, most of it, ha ha)

Still though, I find myself getting cast into the friend role more than I’d like to. I feel like I’m using innuendos, suggestions, and body contact enough, but maybe I’m not? Is there something else that is causing the problem?


Dean Cortez’s Answer


You’re absolutely right that you need to be doing the things that you listed. Remember though, that it’s not just about doing things, but doing things with a PURPOSE. Doing them the RIGHT way. Don’t just put your hand on her arm and assume that you can “check” that box off. There has to be constant, meaningful effort.

What I want you to do is go back to M.A.C.K. Tactics and look back at the Pillars we discussed. I think that what you need is more confidence. Women are attracted to confidence and if they find you charming, friendly, funny, even attractive, but aren’t sensing that air of confidence, they can cast you into the dreaded friend zone quicker
than you can say “Flee and they will follow. Follow and they will flee.”

I think you’re on the right track, it just sounds like you need to brush up on some things.