College is supposed to be the best four years of your life. It’s supposed to be the time when teenage boys and girls “find themselves”, when they start to mature, make a whole new set of friends, go out and have fun, have new experiences, and generally just have a great time.
Here’s the question: can you be in a relationship and still do all of that? Or should your college years be spent single?
Our opinion? College is definitely the perfect place to meet new people and do new things. If you’re looking for a time in your life to be free, do what you want and be single, then college is that time.
But if you’re already in a happy and committed relationship, you shouldn’t feel like youhave to break up with that person just because you’re going to school.
If you have a happy and balanced relationship, having a significant other during your college years isn’t going to hurt you or ruin your experience.
You can absolutely still get the most out of college without sleeping around – hooking up with lots of people might make a great experience for some people, but everyone is different. In the end, do what makes YOU happy.
For most guys, College is a rite of passage when it comes to women. Most late bloomers, such as myself, get girlfriends in this period of time and if you’re a student you should definitely get a girlfriend in College.
Dating in college can be a lot of fun, especially for freshmen who are persistently meeting new people (which can equal many opportunities to hook up!). But don’t forget that relationships are intricate.
First-year students often become sequential daters, skipping from partner to partner as a way of testing the dating waters. Here are a few tips to get you started and keep you out of dating hell:
- If you’re going to date somebody in your dorm, do so with risky caution and take things slowly. Gossip spreads fast in a dorm.
- Dating someone you meet in a class is okay as long as you start the relationship after midterms.
- If it turns ugly fast, you’ve only got a few weeks of seeing the person before class is over. If it’s great, then you won’t be distracted in class by your sweetheart for long.
- Don’t rush things. Go out on a few dates before you commit to anyone.
- If you’re going to be a player, you’re going to land a player, as well as a bad reputation.
- “No strings attached” relationships do not exist in college.
- Having sex does not guarantee falling in love.
- Lying is ugly; being yourself is much more attractive than pretending to be someone you’re not.
- If you really want to get to know someone, leave alcohol out of the dating experience.
- Yes, alcohol can help to break the ice, but it will also impair your judgment.
- Lust is physical attraction. Love requires a more evocative connection than just sex. It’s easy to get these two emotions confused.
- If you find yourself falling in love, don’t be afraid to tell the other person: chances are he/she feels the same way about you.
I can’t stress enough that its when you’ve got a girlfriend that you learn the most about women. You’ll learn their psychology, their wants and needs, how they are in relationships, and what they really want in men.
That is I’ll choose being with a girlfriend over being a college pick up artist any day because all those guys stress about is approaching girls.
What these College PUA’s don’t realize is that approaching is one thing, but the real meat and potatoes is building a relationship with women in College over time and turning that into a relationship. So don’t wait till the day your 4 years are up to realize this.